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The Secret About The Secret

I'm just going to cut right to the chase here and say that I believe the secret about The Secret is that there is no secret.

There is simply no secret to getting anything and everything we want in life.

There is no way we can control every aspect of our lives.

There is no formula we can all follow that will always work for us to "manifest" all that we desire. (Despite what many privileged influencers would have us believe.)


Anyone who tells us otherwise is either not really telling us the whole story, or they are so wrapped up in their own privilege that they can't see past their own lens.

I don't mean to disrespect those who do believe in it (I was there at one point and have years of experience immersed in it) but it's just that if we step back, take a look at the actual big picture of all that is going on, there is obviously so much going on in the world that we just can't control.

I just watched a video that had a law of attraction guru on that was trying to encourage an attendee at one of his retreats to "intend" for the rain to stop. Together, on camera, he and the woman were unable to make the rain stop with their spiritual intentions, despite their "vibrational energy" directed to do so.





They weren't able to make the rain stop.


Or not, really.

Makes total sense.

Now, that may be a minor example of how we can't control everything by our "intentions" but we all know there is so much more at stake here than just the rain falling or not falling from the sky. There is so much suffering and heartache that can't be simply explained away by a belief system that favors the ones who "vibrate right" or follow all the "right steps." It's just so completely lacking in real-world compassion, I can hardly think about it without wanting to cry.

Also, if "fear vibrations" actually "attracted" the fear-based thoughts into my life, then each one of my four children would have died as infants.

And for anyone that has experienced the unimaginable loss of an infant child, they would be to blame in this belief system. I can't imagine anything more shameful than to blame someone for such a devastating heartbreak.

It just doesn't add up.

I'm not saying there for sure isn't some element of good in it, like yes, let's practice the helpful parts like create inspirational dream boards and journals, cultivate healthy mindsets, practice love, hope, optimism, gratitude, compassionate service, and even a humble, surrendering type prayer if we want to, but let's stop thinking that we get to decide how everything plays out.

I am fully aware that many people have many stories of all the the miracles the "universe" has sent them. I get it. I've had my fair share of cool and unexplainable things that have happened to me too. I don't think the problem is believing in miracles. I think the problem is when we think we get to control miracles. The problem is thinking we get to control the outcomes. The problem is when we judge, shame, and blame ourselves and others when we don't get the things we want. The problem is when we think we are above, better, or more "enlightened" than other people, simply because we have more than them or have "attracted" what we want in life.

Take care of yourself. Love yourself and others. Try to bring good things into the world, but let's not think we get to control everything.

Letting go of the need to control everything has been one of the greatest gifts of my life.

Lots of love,


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