I've always been afraid of self-love.
I've always thought that if I were to love myself more, then I would love others less.
That if I were to honor my own needs, then I couldn't meet the needs of others.
And honestly, in some ways this has been true.
As I have come to more fully embrace my self-care lifestyle, I have had to let go of people-pleasing.
I have had to disappoint people, set boundaries, and say no.
I have had to accept that just because someone thinks they "need" something from me, doesn't mean it is healthy for me to give it.
Because the truth is, I can't do and be everything for everyone.
I simply can't.
It's a reality.
And my well-being matters too.
I simply can't pour from an empty cup.
I know this because I've tried it and it has landed me in the hospital more than once.
You don't have to set yourself on fire to keep others warm.
Lots of love,